Friday, my mom told me that my (older) sister had asked asked her & my dad to go to Florida with them on vacation. My mom told me she didn't want to go to at all, because it just didn't interest her. I said that we were trying to plan on going to *another fun location* this summer...and my mom said she would LOVE to do that. WELL fast forward to the birthday party Saturday...I overheard my dad and my sister talking about making reservations...*same location as my vacation*...lots to do...antiques...etc. I couldn't have been more shocked if someone had walked up and slapped me. They have stolen my vacation out from under me! I am so hurt and mad, and every time I talk about it I just want to cry. (prob. pregnancy emotions, I know) My mom knows I'm mad because at the party she said "what's wrong with you" and all I answered was "well, I just found out where ya'll are going on vacation this summer" and walked off. Then later my sis was talking about it to the rest of the family, and my mom, who is not known for holding her tongue, didn't say ONE WORD! I want to just "have it out" with them and get it over with, but I don't know how to bring it back up. All I've been doing this weekend is stewing over it.

The way I see it is one of 2 things happened:
1. My sis and BIL had a "vision" and decided to change their plans of vacation destination

OR

2. Mom went and told dad and they mentioned it to sis and BIL, who agreed, leading to the rest of the story.

Either way, it's just wrong. If #1 happened, then mom should have said "well, Charla has already mentioned this to me, so I can't make plans w/ you behind her back w/o talking to her first" and if #2 happened, then that is all kinds of WRONG! MEAN! DECIETFUL! and most of all hurtful. You know, sorry that I didn't realize that I had to make plans for Vacation in November or December to beat the backwards-ass family I have who believes all vacations book up in January. I've been a little bit preoccupied lately, nothing much, just waiting to give BIRTH. I can't think about vacation reservations right now, but I can have the ideas in my head.

It wouldn't make me mad if they were going to all go to Florida, like they had orig. planned. I have no interest in that, and power to them or whatever. It's the fact that they stole my vacation. That they went behind my back w/ my plans. That now, no matter what is said or happens, it will either work out that my mom and dad won't go anywhere, or that they will suggest we "all go together like a big happy family" which sucks royally! It is not a vacation when you go with the sis and BIL. It is super stressful because they are never happy, and she won't discipline her kids. I do have one trump card, though...mom and dad have never been on vacation with us but have been several places w/ them, so I *could* play it. I just don't know what to do, besides fume. I'm really good at that, lol. Any suggestions?