I'm all for my husband (hey babe) having a hobby he loves...something I'm not involved in, and something that doesn't remind him of work. Golf happens to be that hobby (never mind that it's an EXPENSIVE hobby). I feel like I'm pretty cool about it; I don't bitch and whine (much) when he heads off to the course after work or on weekends.
Except last night.
He came home from work about 5ish and headed right back out the door to "go to the driving range." He said he would bring dinner home after he finished hitting "a couple of buckets." Fast forward to 9:30. 9:30!!!! I'm here with Chase, who has long since hit his witching hour, and we are both starving! I can't get him on the phone, and I am PISSED. I really hated for Chase and I to eat because I knew he would eventually bring home food. When he finally did call he gave some lame excuse about being roped into playing a few holes with a friend and his sons (which I found totally not-fucking-funny after I put two & two together later on when he said how he had to convince the person running the course to let him play a few holes - and THEN he ran into previously mentioned friend. What about the couple of buckets on the driving range???????)
I suppose it all boils down to I'm just feeling lonely. He's at work all day, then when we should be having family time he doesn't want to stay. Also, I'm really tired of this trying to have a baby thing. I just don't know how some people get through it. I know I'll get over my feelings soon, but I just needed a little pity-party today.
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Yeah, girl. Been there. DONE THAT.
When he gets home tonight, you need to hand him Chase and say, "See Ya!" and go to the movies or something. Men can be so self-centered sometimes. I just don't get it. Why does everything have to be about them?
*HUGS*
Posted by: Allison | June 16, 2004 04:22 PM
Don't hate me gals, but I am blessed when it comes to that. Dan takes care of Jake as much as I do, sometimes more. I do however have to deal with him spending his spare time on the computer, but I figure if that's the least of my worries when it comes to my marriage, I can deal.
Charla, I agree with Allison. Don't forget to take time for you as well. Parenting is a shared deal and the hubby should have his time as well.
Posted by: Daisyhead | June 16, 2004 10:56 PM
Tim is that way when I'm working! He is everything I could've asked for. It's just when I'm out of school for the summer that it happens. It is prob. more my feelings are hurt than him being ummmm...aloof.
Posted by: Charla | June 17, 2004 08:07 AM
You are a much nicer, understanding wife than I am. First of all, I would have eaten. And no, I wouldn't have made something, I would have ordered pizza or something. LOL Screw the food he's bringing home. Secondly, my hubby doesn't go out after work unless it's FOR work (client to dinner, etc.) and even then, I'm not happy. Maybe I'm lucky and take it for granted, but I expect Jason to take the kids off my hands as much as possible when he's home -- after work, weekends, etc. He only gets 1 hour with them in the morning and 1.5-2 hours with them in the evening after he gets home before it's their bed time. I figure he can relax after they're in bed. LOL
Hang in there, sweetie! Tell him how you feel -- calmly and rationally. That you're HURT, not MAD. I'm sure he'll listen. :)
Posted by: Christie | June 17, 2004 10:43 AM
Ooooh, I like Allison's idea. Now it's your turn to go out.
I definitely would have eaten, meals are too important to me. :)
Still, it sounds like something you and your husband should talk about. If he's a good guy, which it sounds like he normally is, you can hash this out. Don't want any repeat performances, ya know?
Posted by: Marcia | June 18, 2004 10:28 AM
Hey girl. Are you a stay at home mom? I'm supposed to be going back in September, supposed to being the operative word. We shall see. Hope you're doing well!
Posted by: justjenn | June 18, 2004 03:57 PM